Being jointly aware about how relationships grow gives you a chance at dedicated love, and you can both relax and explore on the way.
It takes time to reach the point of devotion. Too many jump into commitment too premature.
Have you ever done that? Just like a fairy tale with a first date and then living happily every after? It is a fairy tale! The actual world is that love takes time. Take each of the 3 phases to get there.
Phase One – First Dates
What is very preliminary.
It is not time yet to be considering a possible future together, simply checking out the other, and seeing if you are interested enough for future dates.
Link chemistry’s physical, psychological, and spiritual. The physical is frequently obvious… do you discover the individual physically attractive? Would you like the eyes, mouth, body type?
How can the person smell to you?
If somebody smells or tastes of smoke, is a game-changer for you? Some things won’t ever change. Some things can or will change over time, but right now you are in the point of first impressions through the five senses.
There’s also the psychological and spiritual connection that is part of early chemistry discovery. What is the conversation? Can you share similar interests and life perspectives?
Phase Two is the Honeymoon
It is something many couples work to maintain aspects of afterwards in their own relationships.
You see one another regularly. You have a good deal of fun and excitement together as you get to actually know one another.
The honeymoon can last for a month or two, or up to a year. It ends as you get to recognize the humanity of your spouse. Your spouse has defects, and you begin to see them.
For many, the honeymoon is all they need. They’ve a type of addiction to the thrill of their honeymoon.
They break up and move on as the honeymoon period evolves to its close. I call these folks 90-Day Wonders.
They’re terrific for a honeymoon, but lack the emotional maturity and stability to pursue a long-term relationship.
When the honeymoon with the rose-colored eyeglasses is ending, and you see one another’s lack of devotion, you might attempt to change one another.
You may struggle over who is and who is wrong in situations, beliefs, and attitudes. This is a power struggle.
If you can reach the point where you accept one another as you are, rather than attempt to alter perceived imperfections, many relationships become more powerful and endure.
Otherwise, breakup can occur, or, often worse, staying together and being miserable.
If the decision’s to take your spouse, and vice-versa, the connection can continue and develop in a wholesome way. You have given one another a chance at finding love.
Are you interested in living your life intentionally to create the life you want to contribute? Research indicates that using creative mindfulness is the best way to Design the Life You Desire.
A huge part of the life we need is a Love Relationship.